Nothing can quite prepare you for that gut wrenching moment that your lover tells you they want to finish the relationship. In this confused state you are often coping with the loss of the one you love whilst attempting to work out how to get them back. Even if all you want is to find out what they are thinking and feeling about you, it is so important to give them some space right now.
The most crucial time is immediately after you have broken up. It is of vital importance that you behave in a certain way at this point of your breakup.
Your best reaction to the news of the break up should be to stay very calm and tell your lost love that you totally agree with them that a break up is a smart idea Even though your every instinct is against doing this, your ex will not be expecting this response from you.
This response has proved to be the most successful in keeping your ex onside.
Already sent a torrent of text messages or been constantly ringing your ex? Don't fret, there is a technique you can try to bring some calm to the situation.
It takes a little bit of effort, but it can do wonders for the immediate future of your relationship. What is the magic technique? Simply write them a very short letter. In it, just say that you have thought about it and that they were absolutely right in wanting to end the relationship. You will come across as accepting and calm which is much more appealing to them than being desperate and needy.
Simply make it a very short letter telling them that they were right to want to break up. Just make sure you write an actual letter and not just text them or call them on the phone. Or worse, tell them face to face.
Why does this work? It's a concrete, solid assurance that they were right. You are considering their feelings. They feel listened to. Simply sending yet another text message, or leaving a message on their machine for the umpteenth time is not going to have the same effect as sending them a real, tangible letter that they can hold and pore over and keep.
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